Dating an older married woman with kids
Not only is it important for you to understand their various developmental stages in order to know what makes them tick but also to figure out what kinds of things really interest them insofar as hobbies, books, movies, pets, games, sports and foods.
Create opportunities to make something together, play games and demonstrate that you're a good listener who respects whatever they have to say. Rushing into a parental role too quickly can have detrimental effects on a child's self-esteem and sense of security, especially if your relationship with the mother doesn't last.
Russell confesses he hasn't dated since 1989 and Jess replies, "That was the year I learned to use the toaster by myself." Not so hot.
DO be lovey dovey, but DON' T nickname him something based on his age (Fancypants is cool, though).
Whether or not you agree with your sweetheart's parenting skills, the time to correct or contest her actions is not in front of the children.
This undermines her authority and also confuses the children as to which one of you they should be listening to.
Neither preach to them nor bore them to death with "when I was your age" stories. Trust takes time to build and children are no exception to this rule.