Dating girls in their twenties
If the girl is super interested she will sometimes take the initiative to try and start conversations with you before the date. Once you have a good relationship going with a girl and she understands your humor, then you can joke more via texts. Your answers will be unique and personal, plus they invite her to contribute her ideas to the conversation. I suggest a quiet bar for your venue because it’s a great place to chat. There is a lot of pressure when someone is facing you square. If you both are shoulder to shoulder and facing forward, she can feel more at ease.
She now has your number, knows who the number belongs to, and a reminder of the date place and day. I’ve written about this in both Hang-Ups and Hangovers (it comes up on the date with Alexis) AND Redheads and Bedspreads (comes up on the date with Alesha). When you are sitting at bar stools, it’s okay to face straight forward.
Don't patronize other women, pal." (OK, There you were, happily dating through your twenties when, bam, your 30th birthday arrived and everything changed. Sometimes the drinks get nicer, but honestly, a good majority of the time you're still in a dive bar.
If they do YOU a favor, they resolve any dissonance in their subconscious by convincing themselves of how much they like you. I just can’t imagine dedicating myself to that girl if she comes home and puts out on the first date. This line is foolproof and I used to drop it no matter where on God’s green earth I was. If she has answered that she wants to go to your house, then she WANTS to go to your house.There you were, happily dating through your twenties when, bam, your 30th birthday arrived and everything changed. Sometimes the drinks get nicer, but honestly, a good majority of the time you're still in a dive bar. It's mostly the same old song-and-dance of drinks, first kisses, and mixed signals.If you want to invite her home, the time to do it is while you still have the bill. If you don’t care about her, invite her home so you can at least get some action. I’ll probably text her again at some late hour and say something like: “come over.” Therefore, I would recommend inviting her home the majority of the time. She’ll say yes or she’ll say “not tonight.” Either way, NOT A BIG DEAL. Because you both should drive separate to the date, you just say: “Great, just follow me.” Don’t offer her GPS or your address. If it’s a little farther away than two blocks that should be irrelevant.You don’t want to spring it on her after you get up. If you do care about her, see if she will tell you no. Either way, you DO NOT try to convince her to come over if she doesn’t want to. When she sees it’s actually three miles instead of two blocks, you’ve created a hurdle for yourself. (If you are really far from home you may change the line from “couple blocks” to “couple miles” or “couple minutes.” Something like that).
If you ask her in person for her number, afterwards text her something basic. Looking forward to drinks at Mike’s Tuesday.” You’ve covered all your bases with that super simple text. Also, a table has you both awkwardly facing directly at each other. It can be uncomfortable and intimidating if your date is already nervous.