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But alas, 99 times out of 100, there isn’t a good reason and the situation never changes. And we have to deal with the ugly truth, but with months wasted under the ol’ dating belt.
Sometimes, the people coming to me for advice are young and I let them figure it out.
I get why people don’t listen when I tell them this.
The hardest thing that human beings ever have to face is that sometimes, the people we most want to be around in the world could give a shit less if we exist.
He doesn’t necessarily give you any reason not to trust him…
but you’re not sure how you feel about the whole situation.
So instead, we choose to believe that our situation is different.
They would break off relationships or move across the country. They would learn to love a cat, even though they are most definitely allergic. Just because someone loves to hang out with you doesn’t mean they’re your soulmate, but if someone make time for you, then they aren’t into you. As human beings, we can’t help ourselves when we’re into someone. It’s the best feeling chemicals in the world that urge, urge, urge you to be in the company of the person who makes you produce those happy vibes.
For instance, that “Don’t go to bed angry” shit would have resulted in my divorce.
I need time to breathe when I’m angry or else I lash out like a heavy-footed she-beast.
Sometimes, people are just looking to fuck around or to have a little wild sex and they don’t need advice from a boring married lady like me. And when you want to make excuses for the person who isn’t hanging out with you, pull it out and let it sink in.
But to the ones among you who don’t want to waste any more time with someone who won’t commit to you, heed my advice.
Perhaps in your experience it’s been awkward to socialise with someone you used to have sex with…